I have talked about personality and being an introvert a couple of times on here over the course of the last few weeks. After discovering to be an introvert a few things fell into place for me and I was keen to learn more about this personality trait. A couple of weeks ago I took the Meyers-Briggs Personality Test to get even more insight. My verdict: INFJ
Coming from a background in psychology I naturally take these kinds of tests with a grain of salt yet I can’t deny how shocked I was when I read the description of INFJ people. Some statements were just so accurate that it creeped me out. On the other hand I felt like the biggest relieve as I finally somehow fit in somewhere. I have processed the whole thing in my mind for some time now and I have also read quite a few articles about it. Some things completely hit home some things at least to an extent.
And as I feel a bit random and narcissistic today (actually a really weird combination) I thought I’d compile a neat little list of things about me being INFJ.
Things I wish everyone knew about INFJ me yet I don’t bring up in casual conversation
1. Reading the list of famous INFJs makes me cringe – I can’t relate
2. I think I am a good friend. I love being there for others. If fact I will always be
3. I avoid under all circumstances to hurt anyone and then I get hurt in the process
4. I feel intensely and I like being full of emotion yet sometimes I think I might burst
5. Sometimes it’s hard to balance my emotions – sometimes it’s even hard to know what I am feeling. That’s what makes me moody
6. I rarely let my guard down and as much as I wish to open up with people the risk is just too high. And when I open up I am torn between euphoria and fearful regret
7. I have a very rich and chaotic inner world and I spend a lot of time there. It’s my happy place
8. I have a hard time to cope with spontaneous change in plans but that doesn’t mean I can’t warm up to new ideas
9. I feel like an idiot when I speak with other people a lot
10. I can throw the biggest most flamboyant pity party for myself
11. I do feel social and like to engage in social activity but an afternoon coffee + dinner invitation freaks me out
12. When I am with another person alone I am much more social and don’t burn out so easily
13. Stubbornness – at my best and at my worst
14. When I overreact it’s not because I want to stir drama, it’s because the last 20 times I haven’t reacted at all and now everything comes out all at once
15. When someone I care about gets hurt it hurts me too
16. I like being complex but I don’t like that it makes me so complicated sometimes
17. I love how empathetic I am but I wish I wouldn’t feel other people’s emotions as strong as they were my own
18. I remember pretty much everything anybody has ever told me about themselves. Yet I don’t let people know most of the time as I don’t want to be a creeper
19. I often feel weak as stress, anger, disappointment and conflict affect me physically
20. Expectations… I try not to have any because mine are always too high – and I don’t want to be pushy
21. I don’t mean to shut out anyone when I am shutting down. Sometimes I just need to re-attach to myself
22. Even though I need my alone time I don’t want to be alone all the time
23. I am most allergic to people telling me how I should feel
24. I crave intense friendships and relationships – I am not in for lukewarm and I need to be needed
25. I am a walking contradiction yet everything makes sense to me
Now that I have successfully affirmed myself that I am a normal human being the hard part starts. With gaining more knowledge about how I as an INFJ might be wired I also got a holy lot of excuses for certain behavior. I think it’s difficult to draw the line between recharging and having a break from being anti-social and isolating myself. I might not have mentioned it in detail but I am prone to extreme bahavior.
Also having an excuse for being moody from time to time hasn’t been very helpful to decrease the moodiness.
On the other hand life would probably be pretty boring if we had figured it out all the time.
Have you ever taken a personality test? What did it do to you?